Loving Your Kids While Living Apart

When I became a parent, co-parenting wasn’t exactly on my list of life goals. I didn’t dream of navigating custody schedules, communicating through tense exchanges, or helping my children work through the big emotions that come with divorce. But here I am. And if you’re reading this, maybe you are too.

I’m not a parenting expert. I have some training in marriage and family, but most of what I’ve learned has come from the school of hard knocks. This book isn’t written from a place of flawless execution—far from it. In fact, I get pretty real about the ugly truths I’ve faced, the moments I didn’t show up well, and the times my own pain got in the way of doing what was best for my kids. Learning to co-parent has stretched me in ways I never expected. It’s forced me to confront my own wounds and triggers, to choose peace over pride, and to prioritize my children’s well-being even when it’s been hard.

This book was born during one of those tough seasons. My son was struggling with big emotions about missing his dad, and I felt completely overwhelmed. I joked that his feelings would be the inspiration for my next book, because I needed to do some serious research on how to help him. But the more I reflected, the more I realized that what I really needed was to take a hard look at my own co-parenting approach. What was I doing right? Where could I grow? How could I better support my son without letting my own frustrations cloud my judgment?

What you’ll find in these pages isn’t a list of easy answers. Choosing the hearts of your children above your own desires is rarely easy. Sometimes it hurts. Sometimes it brings up memories and feelings you’d rather avoid. But just like the birth pains I endured with all four of my children, the struggle often produces something beautiful. The relationship I work to maintain with my co-parent isn’t for the sake of the relationship itself or to create some picture-perfect version of divorced co-parenting. It’s for the benefit of my children, and that alone.

I also can’t talk about this journey without mentioning faith. God has been my constant source of strength, patience, and perspective. When I wanted to lash out, He reminded me of the power of grace. When bitterness crept in, He softened my heart. My faith has anchored me, helping me choose peace time and time again. I believe that the small, faithful decisions we make today will shape our children’s futures. And I’m confident that even in the messiness of co-parenting, God can bring beauty and redemption.

If you’re navigating this path and wondering if it’s possible to do it well, I hope this book encourages you. It won’t give you a perfect formula, but it will give you honest reflections, practical insights, and a reminder that you’re not alone. Co-parenting may not be the life you planned, but with patience, humility, and a whole lot of grace, it can be a life you live well—for the sake of your children and yourself.

Check out my little book - it's a quick read that I hope will inspire you to think intentionally about how your coparenting truly impacts your chilren, and inspires you to love them well, even living apart.

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